Psychotherapy

Mindfulness

By |August 27th, 2015|

Mindfulness is about changing a relationship to oneself, befriending oneself, relating to our thoughts, emotions, our body, our sensations with kindness and compassion.

 
Love After Love – Poem by Derek Walcott
The time will come
when, with elation
you will greet yourself arriving
at your own door, in your own mirror
and each will smile at the other’s welcome,

and say, […]

The Healing Time

By |August 24th, 2015|

Finally on my way to say yes

I bump into

all the places

where I said no

to my life

all the unattended wounds

the red and purple scars

those hieroglyphs of pain

carved into my skin, my bones,

those coded messages

that send me down

the wrong street

again and again

where I find them

the old wounds

the old misdirections

and I lift them

one by one

close to my […]

Honesty in Psychotherapy

By |August 20th, 2015|

‘Integrity means a state of honesty and wholeness. Honesty is a key element in psychotherapy. Being honest with ourselves means to face the facts of our experience – to be willing to feel what we are feeling, sense what we are sensing and question all of our cherished beliefs. (…) This means that we […]

The Art of Listening

By |August 19th, 2015|

 

‘To listen is to lean in softly

With the willingness to be changed by what we hear.’

Mark Nepo

In a way listening is quite a vulnerable position. It requires us to stop planning what we’re going to say or managing what the other person’s saying. It requires openness to receive our own response to what is […]

When you beautify your mind, you beautify your world

By |August 18th, 2015|

‘ Everything and everyone we see, we view through the lenses of our thoughts. Your mind is where your thoughts arise and form. It is not simply with your eyes but with your mind that you see the world. So much depends on your mind: How you see yourself, who you think you are, […]

Gentle Parenting

By |July 21st, 2015|

“Parenting has nothing to do with perfection. Perfection isn’t even the goal, not for us, not for our children. Learning together to live well in an imperfect world, loving each other despite or even because of our imperfections, and growing as humans while we grow our little humans, those are the goals of gentle […]

A beautiful poem about mindfulness

By |July 11th, 2015|

Enjoy Roger Keyes’ poem:

Hokusai says

Hokusai says look carefully.
He says pay attention, notice.
He says keep looking, stay curious.
He says there is no end to seeing

He says look forward to getting old.
He says keep changing,
you just get more who you really are.
He says get stuck, accept it, repeat
yourself as long as it is interesting.

He says keep […]

To be without the anxiety about imperfection

By |July 6th, 2015|

Dalai Lama was being interviewed about his book ‘The Art of Happiness’. He was asked if he had any experiences of guilt or remorse. After a pause he answered: guilt no but remorse maybe. He told a story when an elderly monk asked him about doing some yoga exercises that were designed for young […]

More on RAIN meditation

By |June 29th, 2015|

What are you unwilling to feel?

A gentle inquiry into what we are unwilling to feel may be very useful. You have probably heard the phrase that ‘what you resist persists’. Carl Gustav Jung added: “What you resist not only persists, but will grow in size.”

How so?

What we pull away from sticks. Maybe it […]

mindful psychotherapist’s reflection

By |May 19th, 2015|

Whatever has been unseen, unmet, unloved arises in order to be seen, met loved, and liberated within ourselves and within life.

How do you meet yourself – do you see pathology that needs fixing or can you see the innocence of the so called pathological states at their inception. What would it feel like to […]