In an effort to understand where suffering comes from, we often tend to search for causes or people to blame. …Most people experience some trauma in their lives however, it is the individual’s mind that keeps the suffering going, and this mind and its workings can be investigated and changed. As long as we are struggling against the feeling, hoping to eliminate it by getting high or being cured, we are still in the grip of it. We can relieve the suffering only by paying attention with kindness and curiosity and changing our perspective.
based on Going on Being by Mark Epstein